For those of you who know me, know that my main message is to find your glamour within. I often get asked, what does that mean? For a while I thought I knew, I spoke about just being confident and loving yourself and although those are important and still what I stand for. As time went on I started to find my own version of glamour and realized there was much much more to my saying.
[glam·our] an attractive or exciting quality that makes certain people or things seem appealing.
Often times, when we hear the word GLAMOUR we think of extravagant and fancy things, I used to do the same. Let's start off with how I found my own version of glamour within. As you may know, I was not very confident in myself. I had been living an unhealthy lifestyle, gained 30 pounds and was not feeling my best. When I began my fitness journey, I decided to learn about myself. Who is Sam? What does Sam want to conquer in life? I wanted answers as to who I was and what my purpose in life was. I came to the conclusion that the definition of glamour is what YOU want it to be. When I started questioning glamour, I was doing a lot of soul and mind searching. I had just made a dent in my health and fitness journey and started feeling GREAT about myself. I found myself turning to social media and religiously following what other "glamorous" females were doing, but I still didn't feel nearly as good as they made it seem. Soon I realized, these things that were suppose to make me happy were actually doing the opposite. I was now constantly comparing myself to these social media accounts with unrealistic expectations of GLAMOUR. So I decided to put an end to it and create my own version of glamour.
Believe me, this wasn't an easy task and it didn't happen over night. Each day I had to make a choice to be a better version of myself, I had to chose to love who I was becoming and learn about who I wanted to be. When I asked myself if I loved me, I said yes but didn't always believe or feel it. I wanted to change that, I wanted to be able to write and speak about truly loving myself for who I was created to be and help others do the same.
Social media played a big part in why I wasn't confident. I felt I had to look or act like others in order to be worthy. I was wrong. I only had to be myself, unapologetically myself at that. I decided to break the rules social media had put in place that made me feel that I wasn't good enough.
To begin, I stopped judging and started praising. I stopped looking at others as competition and started to look at them for who they are and what they had to offer.
I stopped judging myself and everyday gave myself one compliment/praise.
I started to admire others for their growth and became their biggest fan. We can support one another, IT DOES NOT make you less than.
I started taking time for myself to reflect and learn. Blasted my favorite song throughout the house and sang like I was the only one living here.
I created my own happiness and stopped depending on people and things to create that for me.
I practiced self care. I set aside time to give myself what I needed to be the best version of me I could be.
Most importantly, I began to give to others. I began to spread my message and show that you don't need to be what society wants you to be. You're beautiful, strong, and worthy.
Self love does not happen overnight and is not easy. It takes finding who you are and who you want to become. I am still working at it, everyday I work to find my version of glamour within. I have to accept my flaws. That is the hard part. Some days I have good days and some days I have bad ones, it’s apart of who I am. It’s what pushes me to be better. Not better than anyone but better than who I was 5 years, 5 months, 5 weeks, and 5 days ago.
Everyone is unique, we all have something different to offer. That's what makes our world such a beautiful place to live in. No two people are the same. No one has your smile or your exact freckle pattern. No one laughs or cries like you do. We are all different and we are all GLAMOROUS. So embrace who you are girl, you're one of a kind!
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